That’s true, and such people are very rare. To get two of them together is even rarer.
It’s worth looking for, I suppose, but realistically the chances of finding that in today’s world is very darn slim.
I mean by this that all the men I have known well enough to know such things about them --- father, brother, boyfriends way back when, husband, sons, and their friends --- have been really decent members of the male class, fulfilling the expectation that they would be decent, reasonable, fit to live with and to love.
And women to match.
That's why society "out there" --- especially the society portrayed in the media we take for truth --- strikes me a so unreal.
I know it';s way-too-real for a lot of people.
? To me it;s bewildering.
I remember as a child seeing the "Family of Man" photography book --- acquired by my very working-class Father at a used-book store, produced by, I think. the NY Metropolitan Museum of Art sometime in the 50's? --- which showed men and women of many colors and cultures in their homes and work environments, and thinking, "They all are wonderful to me."
I dunno, truly. It may partly depend on where you're looking.