Wonder what the period of time between his birth mother giving him up and his long term parents.
Reactive attachment disorder is strong in some institutionalized adopted kids. They don’t really seem to attach to their new family.
And the institutionalized brother in the mix. They had to be adopted together.
“Children view themselves as the center of their universe and the cause of events in their life”
LOL! Read my middle school and high school diaries when my daughter started to getting hormonal. I was so embarrassed. I can’t believe my parents let me live! LOL!
In my work, it is easy to determine if a person was an unwanted baby. Memories begin at conception and are all intact no matter the current age of the person.
It is also easy to determine the relationship between the mother and father during pregnancy and the availability(or lack of) the father to the mother during pregnancy.
A baby in the womb can differentiate between being unwanted and rejected vs abandonment. They are two almost opposite responses in the child.
When I stimulate the memory of an unwanted child who is now an adult, it often knocks them backward off their feet. In addition, the person could me a Nobel Prize Winner or an Olympic Gold Medalist and still not feel “good enough” in their life. It does not matter if the parents were the best, most wonderful parents after the child was born as the perceptual programming event on the tabula rasa of the soul during pregnancy is the most impactful on the emotional perception applied throughout life.
I also identify the degree and type of trauma by the person’s relationship with their pets. Wounded souls tend to humanize their pets as they can’t trust the Love from humans.
The degree to which a person internalizes vs externalizes their consciousness is an important factor in later behavior patterns. For example, one person who internalizes may become a stalker while the next may be a murderer. Gender is an important factor.
Each individual is different based upon the many influencing factors.
Single parenting is one of the most dangerous negative influences on children due to the codependency that often forms between the single parent and the child, causing the child to develop into the complement of the parent rather than according to their birth gender.