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I’m sure we could list out different things contributing to the decline of marriage.

I would add some items of note.

1. Today’s young people earn less, adjusted for inflation, than some past generations. Such economic difficulty can make many, especially young men, wonder how they can ever support a family.

2. Housing is more expensive in many areas nowadays, adjusted for inflation.

3. Nobody talks.much of sex , but that is no longer any factor in people especially men, in any desire for marriage.

4. Many young women today are not appealing as potential marriage partners.

5. Delayed maturity/adulthood in young adults.

6. Young men especially, who enjoy the single life, including Hefner’s Playboy philosophy, may not want to give up what they feel is a fine single life, to be tied down with someone.

7. Too many look at children as a burden. They just don’t want that type of life.

8. Some women, and men too, are so selective about their criteria for a mate, that nobody they meet can meet their standards.

9. Young men have seen their fathers, brothers and male friends get butt-raped in family court, forced to pay years of “maintenance” payments and child support to the ex-wives (no surprise the vast majority of divorces are initiated by women), even when the husbands wanted to stay married and were good dads, and ask themselves “who in their right mind would want to do that?”

So many things in society have changed that I question if marriage will ever be as prevalent as it once was. It kind of amazes me to see couples living together and buying houses, etc., and nobody bats an eye. Then there are the ever-present “baby mamas” and “baby daddies”. Women have more options than they used to have and are no longer financially dependent on a husband, and men no longer need to get married to have sex, and nobody seems to consider the children.

You won’t find that many women that want to get married young and stay home with a bunch of kids. It’s not an easy life and society looks down on women who stay at home and don’t pursue some career. It’s also very difficult to afford having a family on one income. It seems neither men nor woman want this life any more.

I read a story about how many young men now live with their divorced mothers and take care of things that a husband would take care of around the house like mowing the yard, and then go out to have young female companionship. It seems to make mom and the son happy, but it won’t do anything for society at large. It’s a strange new world we live in.