My neurotypical child also knows how to put on a big show. Same deal with us, of my two youngest, one has special needs and the other doesn’t. Yesterday in the grocery store I woulda let you buy them both for $3. (And they were in good moods... just wild and playful)
The only thing I really wish I would have done when the kids were younger is getting the neurotypical kids into therapy.
As adults, my two “normal” kids have some issues that I think were from our crazy home. Lots of anxiety issues. Lots of self-worth issues. I’m not sure what we could have done to help them, but I think something happened to them.