I have read all the advice and I think I just need to talk with her a bit more and I need to put in the effort. The breaking point was at where people assumed she is going to meet my arguments with lies, but since I know she doesn’t lie then I know there is still hope for her.
If she isn’t a liar then you have a shot. Dr’s like to talk science and numbers. That said they also tend to reject things not generally agreed upon by their peers.