He showed poor judgment in taking this to his young staff, now out. Gone either way. Hope wife is okay. At least he already has a couple kids. We had our own challenges but never had to venture to surrogacy.
You can that again!!
“He showed poor judgment in taking this to his young staff, “
Extremely poor judgment. And insensitive. Good grief, the man already had one woman carry twins for him. That is a high risk pregnancy that can put a woman on bed rest for months. It really wrecks a body, too, and it never goes back like it was afterward. Trust me.
You don’t just sidle up to your secretary and say, “Oh, by the way, my wife and I are shopping for a womb to rent. Interested?”
It is a very intimate and life changing thing he is asking of any woman, even if no sex or physical contact is involved. He is still asking to use her body in a profound way for his personal procreation. I can understand why she might be a little creeped out imagining him thinking of her with her belly swollen with his child, not to mention his thoughts about her expanding bustline. Would he ask to feel the baby move? Would he want to be there for the birth? And then he’d wrench the newborn away from her when it was over and he and his wife would take it home to raise, leaving her with empty arms.
No, I would most definitely not want my boss to EVEN go there. The fact that he mentioned it at all would probably make me look for another job.
Having said all that, though, I would not be making an issue about it years later or screaming sexual harassment or some such. He was an insensitive oaf, but that inquiry alone did not make him a predator.