I had a big house in a nice resort town. Owned it outright. Pretty much the "American Dream". Eventually it dawned on me that I spent 90% of my time in my bedroom or down in the garage-workshop, and I really resented paying about $700 -$1000 a month just in utilities, insurance and property taxes just for the 'privilege' of owning the place and listening to noisy neighbors and traffic and having to put up with all the rules and regulations of living in 'civilization'.
So I built a place that provided all the room and comfort I actually need, and cut the bills and taxes I pay to about 15% of what I was paying before. So I would wonder which really is more of an 'American Dream'.
You and I are pretty much the same as you describe. But you are not living in 300 sq ft tiny house, right?