This phenomenon is fascinating.
Claims of abuse, which I do not deny, followed by an unwillingness to name the perpetrator.
Are they only out for a big pay off? Because, that behavior seems as disgusting as the actions of the abusers in that it perpetuates abuse on future victims.
No, not only for a big payoff. A child doesn’t think of a payoff. It’s fear, shame..whatever..
But she’s grown now and all of these victims ought to name names...Cory Feldman included.
The unwillingness to name the perpetrator is because the victim thinks/believes that they did something wrong and are responsible themselves for the abuse. They take on the shame of the abuse and don't want to share it/talk about it/tell anyone.
I've talked about this before here on FR that I was married to a victim of sexual abuse for nearly thirty years. It was her father that did it. I had no idea my now ex-wife was a sexual abuse victim for the first ten years of our marriage.
Once she finally told me, so many things about her, our marriage and the dysfunction of it made sense. Spent twenty years trying to get her help afterwards. Stayed in the marriage until our kids were grown and through high school and off to college then split up and divorced.
I cannot tell you how messed up she was from what she went through. The torment of carrying that shame which was not hers to bear all those years had to be crushing.
To say "one day she snapped" would be an understatement and I didn't recognize her, her behavior, literally anything about her. We divorced, my boys are with me when they're home from school and she's off doing whatever.
As I said in a previous post, the damage done to these young girls/young women by these sick assholes goes far beyond the act of the abuse itself and messes up these women for the rest of their lives. The collateral damage it does to families going forward is near immeasurable.
I could start citing the stats off the top of my head, not going to bother. I'm sure someone would come along and dispute them/ridicule them/make a joke out of them after seeing some of the other threads on this topic over the last few days and I just don't have it in me to set those chuckleheads straight this late at night.