One of the reasons I say there are lots of fags that won’t ping your gaydar, the stereotypical fag is just one type.
THere are masculine and feminine types. Just like lesbians.
I was in a lesbian bar in Dallas called the White Horse, I think it was, decades ago. There was a beautiful red head there who I would have killed for until she walked over and stuck her tongue in a bull dykes ear. What a waste.