I’m not moving to NY, CA, NJ, FL, DC, MA, CT, WA, HI, or near any Democrat held city. That probably explains most of the mobility issue.
Better add Oregon to your list. My husband and I moved our family out of the Seattle area in 1994, with three children under 13. Hated the city, bought 14 acres in the middle of southern Oregon, and did not retire.
Now the politics have gotten so bad, dems are forcing through super liberal laws, especially property rights and gun laws.
We are feeling the itch to move, but our taxes on our home and property are only about $1500 a year, with no mortgage, no sewer bill, no water bill. Looking for another state, but more seriously at another country.