I'll take that moniker as a compliment, thank you. That was the same nickname my immediate supervisor gave me at the time that I served at the US Food and Drug Administration as a Review Chemist. I left FDA to take a position as a VP for a Fortune 500 Pharmaceutical firm, and later launched my own consulting business.
I write, advise, and critique regulatory submissions and legal briefs as I advise mergers & acquisitions in the course of making assessments of manufacturing and clinical operations. I have been blessed with an ability to write, and believe me - it pays well to write well. It is very astute of you to pick up on something like that.
I am happy to stand in judgment of you even as I have invited you to stand in judgment of me.
You assume much (a little judgement [sic.] there). Sorry you’ve such a tender spot about letting others care for your children. Many do.
Don't know that it's a "tender" spot that I have so much as it is a deep and abiding appreciation for what a talented and capable mother of 4 has been able to do. I like to say that when I married my wife, I married the kind of girl that every guy wished he was married to.
I worked very hard, sacrificed personal wants, and lived smaller (think 50’s style) to have a single income family with a full time Mom.
If your choices made you and your family happy and if you can bring yourself to a place that does not harbor a spirit of resentment of others who chose differently, then you have nothing to apologize for.
As far as the '50's go (I was born back then), post war US global economic supremacy came with victory. This led to an unrivaled economic boom where most women stayed at home caring for children (to replenish 400,000 Americans lost). "The Lucille Ball Show," "Ozzie and Harriett," and "Leave it to Beaver" reflected life in an anomalous time.
During the Industrial Revolution most women not working farms worked outside the home even as they did during the wars. Even wealthy women who stayed at home often had servants and slaves to attend to children. For the well-off, the day care providers were hired hands serving in-house. Stay at home moms of that time rarely suffered the "sacrifices" of "personal wants" of which you speak.
My kids are great, and low on materialism (which I believe often drives two incomes)
While that may be true for some, you'll want to be careful not to paint two-income earners with too broad a paint brush.
FReegards!
