I disagree. You can look at the stats to show how once homosexuality became more accepted, the numbers of younger people reporting they are attracted to the same sex has gone up dramatically. That’s how you know it isn’t a trait that a certain number of people are just born with.
I don’t fully understand how fetishes work, but there is no way someone who is attracted to leather or whatever was “born” that way. Some aspects of sexuality are learned behaviors, like Pavlov’s dog. I’m sure every individual is different. But I’m certain that therapy or the right actions can change the sexual orientation of many people if they are willing to change. Just like a smoker or an alcoholic, if you want to quit, you can figure out how to do it, even though it might not be easy. I would expect though that the person would need a sexual partner to work with. I don’t think it could be achieved strictly by talking or all in one’s head.
Actually, the number of people with homosexual orientations growing has been seen in other species especially with pollution or other new chemical interferences into their populations. In my opinion, the acceptance has come due to the sheer numbers and not the other way around.
I agree, fetishes come from imprinting and brain damage such as autism. You can’t be born craving 4 inch high heels to have sex with. Check out little autistic kids who crave spinning wheels or rolling a certain ball. The need for a certain object or mechanical movement. It’s definitely a warp in the brain.
One thing the LGBT community got right was that they all belong together lumped into in the LGBT because the sexual orientations and gender identities are interwoven and must come from a prenatal epigenetic defect.