One thing I need to add. If you know or have ever known a malignant narcissist, then you know there is one thing you never, EVER do to one. Namely, you don’t publicly humiliate them. This strikes at the core of the alternate-reality self-image the MN has created, and does so in an intolerable way. No measure is too extreme for an MN to take, in order to ensure a public humiliation never happens again.
In the Obama administration, what close associate showed Obama the least deference/came closest to publicly criticizing him?
Rahm Emanuel.
What close associate of Obama’s left DC never to return?
Rahm Emanuel. [Also note that, once in Chicago, Emanuel never criticized Obama in any way, shape or form.]
Now take Hillary. Bill has spent decades humiliating her. He’s done it so often, no one can keep track of the number. Yet far from repudiating his actions, Hillary has actively enabled him.
Look the world over. You will never find a MN who is also an enabler—particularly not of someone whose life’s work is humiliating them. The two roles are mutually exclusive.
A person can certainly have a personality disorder and be an enabler. They cannot, however, be a MN AND an enabler. That is like saying water can be dry. It can’t.
I enjoyed your observations of 0bama. I really never tried to analyze his behavior. You make really good points about Hillary, too, and may have convinced me. It’s a fascinating topic. We have a family situation we’re dealing with, most likely NPD. At times it’s like a nightmare.