As an alternative, how about raising your kids with an eye to being able to stand them as they grow up?
Warning: It might require the generous administration of both affection and discipline. Not to mention self-discipline. But the upside is that neither you nor the kids will doing drugs.
From your keyboard to my hubby’s ex-shrew’s ears; who happens to be ironically a child protective worker who remarried a well heeled yes ma’am man.