I’m still kind of limited in what I would reprove such mamas about. It’s kind of hard to catch a man if all the men you know are more interested in having a blast with their buddies than staying around and guiding their kids, or their stepkids, right.
Where are the men. These boys are so hungry for someone to play father in their lives, that they will abjectly yield themselves to gang-banging (in more than one sense) norms. The men need to be rebuilt. Maybe some of them WILL be horrible cases like these, who learned the very hardest way in the school of hard knocks.
There is something to be said for lowering the boom on cases like this in public. “Flog a mocker and the simple [fools] will learn wisdom.” But someone still has to be teaching wisdom; it can’t be merely fear and loathing that are speaking in this picture.
Maybe it says smething about the women in these neighborhoods that the men would rather spend their lives in prison than raise a family with them.