“Must be the Indian equivalent of the Chinese Tiger Mom...Disciplining ones children is considered child abuse in America.”
I didn’t agree with her on the piano and violin - I think they’re a waste of time. And in particular, with her, not letting your kids use the bathroom during practice is abusive in my book, at least (unless their are mitigating circumstances, like sitting on the throne for 45 minutes, as my kids tried to get away with, at times).
But I do agree with virtually all of her other stuff, and it should be noted that her kids did great educationally, and have absolutely no animosity towards their parents - exactly the same outcome with my kids, who were raised in a very similar way.
I had the nuns who would take the pointer to the back of one’s heads if kids weren’t paying attention....it tended to focus your attention. Making you put out your hands so they could strike the knuckles was another trick. That however didn’t help my penmanship, which to this day is atrocious. Thank God for keyboards. Catholic school discipline got me a lot further than the public schools in my neighborhood ever could.
Mom was a help early on. But too ignorant herself to be much help after 5th grade with anything. Dad didn’t help....nor could he. He was only there for the severe discipline. Which kept me an honest citizen for the most part.
In regards music, it depends on how far you go, at what ages, and in what form. Learning an instrument before about age 7 makes structural differences in the brain...though whether that is overall good or bad, I can’t say.