Both sexes complain about the other sex.
Is marriage really a bad deal for men? Depends on the individual man and woman involved, and their relationship together, I think.
If she’s really a bitch, the marriage will be unhappy.
If he’s abusive towards her, the marriage will be a bad one.
If both are loving and there’s give and take together as they deal with life’s issues, the marriage will be a happy one.
If they agree on fundamentals such as religious faith, lifestyle, how to raise their children, etc. then the marriage will be a good one. If they have fundamental disagreements about key areas of life, there will be tensions.
If the wife is one who is never happy, who is never satisfied that he earns enough or pays enough attention to her, and has other complaints she brings up in bitch sessions with her friends, then the marriage will be troubled.
If he’s out sneaking around with other girls, then the marriage is on thin ice.
If both people aren’t on the same page, there will be problems in marriage.
Yes, but all of that has ALWAYS been true, so none of those things are the cause of the current situation.
If you want to understand why the younger generations are avoiding marriage, you need to start asking “what has changed recently about marriage to make it so unappealing?” All of those drawbacks and conditions you cited are ancient, so they are not the culprit.
If I had to pick, I’d say wives are worse than husbands at making marriage miserable. And I blame feminism, which is not trying to right a wrong but to denigrate men. Men have to be very careful and look for “outside the box” women who have no interest in “Bachelor” style shows or have individual friends, not a “set” of fellow women who sharply keep each other in a tight social prison. Men shouldn’t choose wives with their penises. She should be a considerate person BEFORE being a woman. Ask her which she is first. She should put kindness BEFORE gender. That is your best chance of happiness. The more the woman follows a societal mold, the less you should want to be yoked to her for life.
Your comment doesn't address what happens if the marriage ends.
>Is marriage really a bad deal for men?
Considering the following vs. men:
- divorce = pay up
- divorce = joint custody (at best)
- alimony after the ex- is married
- spousal abuse = ‘suck it up buttercup’ but jail if reversed
- non-prosecution (most of the time) for false-rape/abuse charges
If I had a son, I’d say pre-nup or don’t get married until the rules/laws are equalized.
That p* ain’t made of gold, boy /excuse my French