I think my divorce from their mother poisoned my two sons’ view of marriage. They knew that I had been a good husband and father, did not want it, and did not cause it. They know I had no choice. Can’t help but have a little bitterness about it because I put my heart and soul into my wife and children. It has been 15 years since the divorce and it is in the past. But my view of marriage is much more positive than theirs, though I have not yet re-married . . . but probably will.
They have a pretty dim view of women their age and believe our culture has made them untrustworthy and generally unlovable. My heart aches for their dilemma.
Nobody wants to discuss how many of the young men today who avoid marriage are impacted by what they saw years ago (in either their own family or others nearby) in terms of divorce; they know they risk the rest of their lives, and are opting out. Tough to blame them...