I know this breaks the stereotype, but there are many women who keep their heads in crisis situations better than most men. My wife is a good example, she has very good situational awareness and can always be counted on in an emergency not to freeze up.
She is a retired nurse and I am a retired fire lieutenant. Over the years the two of us have stopped to help at many car accidents and other types of emergencies that we have happened upon before the authorities have arrived. I always start doing what I can to mitigate the situation and she has always taken the role of incident commander. She is very good at assigning tasks to anyone who stops to see what is going on, and gives an amazing report when law enforcement or emergency services show up. She generally has the scene so well organized that she is usually asked to keep it up until several units have arrived. She always says she is not sure why people at emergency situations follow her directions, but they do.
My wife has a laser on the pistol that she keeps by her side of the bed and I have complete confidence that she would use it effectively if threatened in our home. Her favorite firearm is actually her WWII vintage .30 carbine, but her 20 gauge shotgun which also has a laser mounted on it is also always ready to go. I worked 24 hour shifts so she was the one who felt like we needed to join a gun club and get some training early in our marriage.
Sounds to me like you’re a lucky man. Congratulations on a long and successful marriage.
My wife and I will celebrate our 48th in July. And you know luck is just a word. It requires a lot of hard work and worth every minute of it.