You do not know a whole lot of public school children under 10 years of age, do you? There are some real pieces of work at FOUR. I am not for teachers spanking children. However, if you could see what some children do in class without ANY consequence at home, you would think that someone needs to be doing some disciplining. Should it be the state? Ugh.
Individual responsibility needs to be stressed constantly. I could have used with that myself along the way.
In truth I do. I also know that many people have no idea just how out of control some young students get. To the point where they present a very real danger to themselves, the teachers, and other students. Most of the time they are ESE which makes disciplining them even trickier and fraught with peril.
At five he very simply may not be ready for school. If there is no dad at home that too could be a big part of his problem and reason for his misbehaving. Dads matter.