My DILs were not interested in my * GASP * old timey advice.
I made my boys take Home Ec in high school. I think after they both graduated it was no longer offered as an elective.
Every girl my boys dated couldn’t iron. Or clean. Or cook. Or bake. Or sew. Or clean ( yes, mentioned TWICE ). Then they married women that couldn’t either. If I had not taught them to be self sufficient, they would be doomed. How does one not teach their kids to be self sufficient ? It’s crazy.
Both are divorced. They weren’t looking to replace Mom, they really wanted partners in life except the women today are taught you don’t need a partner. Some are taught you work therefore you deserve not to work at home. Plus being domestic is considered an outsourcing problem and looked upon as servitude. Imagine that.
My late grandfather didn’t know how to cook until his second wife passed away (he was a double widower). He MADE me learn basic cooking so I didn’t have to do it when I was 69.
My Dad taught me to iron. I made a decent amount of money doing it in the Fraternity.
Learned it all in Scouts and from my Mother. All through my college years I washed, starched and ironed on Friday nights. You could just about cut yourself on the creases in my jeans, shirt pockets and collars. I also cooked a roast for Sunday dinner lunch.
None of it hurt me. That was decades ago.
I happen to think self sufficiency is the best gift parents can give their kids. No one ever knows what curve balls life is going to throw them and it’s important to know how to fend for yourself. In a marriage, sharing the workload builds love and respect. I’m sure your boys appreciate every day what you taught them.
its not just the young women...