I’ll post responses to everyone, individually.
Thank you for your prayers and concerns.. At night she’ll “relax” but is always playing with my hand. She’ll do it for all hours of the night except the ones that she is actually sleeping.
I’m about to go to bed, and I’ll hold her hands for about 2 hours. During that time, I’ll slip my hand away and see how long it lasts. Until at some point she’s asleep enough for me to get some.
She’s healthy though. She just doesn’t really sleep deeply too often.
You are talking about a situation which is highly unusual so it does not pertain to the thread
My kid screamed for three years People used to tell me oh wait till she’s a teenager then you’ll have trouble. I thought no I’ve paid my dues. She gave me zero trouble all through high school. Zero
She does not sleep more than five hours. Will not. I always say we’re still waiting for her to take a nap.
She had one tantrum. One. THAT I dod not respond to. She figured it was a waste of energy never again
Dr Sears calls them kids high need. You’re missing it if you don’t know him
I was able to stay home hub was a provider. We let him sleep
But there might be something you’re missing. Self pity will keep problem solving to a minimum
Research parasites as well. Sandboxes etc are rife. Some kids don’t tolerate as well as others
I don’t know if this will work but I think it is probably much more than just the tactile sensation that soothes her. This has become such a routine I wonder if there are actually changes to her brain chemistry in response to your holding her hands. When you remove your hands it triggers what for lack of a better term I’ll call a withdrawal. If you can help her associate another touch or stimulation of another sense with you holding her hands perhaps you can gradually substitute that for the hand holding without it triggering her desperate cries.
I am not sure if you should try swaddling or putting little mittens on her or make sure the same song is always playing as you hold her hand. The idea is to keep her serotonin levels to where she is relaxed.
Of course you should run this idea by your pediatrician and God be with you.