That question has puzzled men for a long time. Even Sigmund Freud finally admitted he didn't know.
One preacher I used to know said that what a woman really wants is a man to tell her what she wants! Many will scorn that statement but he had a wife who called him “Mister” and a house full of children who were very respectful toward him. I thought him a buffoon as did many others but in his own home he was treated with total respect but with no evidence that either his wife or children feared him.