You didn’t have it easy. Your tag line explains a lot. How did you manage to turn out to be one more wonderful freeper? Glad you’re here among the troops.
What a sweet thing to say.
I learned a long time ago that my problems are my fault and other people’s problems are their fault. I also got enough of an up close view of substance abuse to know I wanted nothing to do with it. But still, I give no blame to my parents for anything. They did the best they could and I love them in spite of their (and my) imperfections.
Too much of the focus of “treatment” is on trying to not feel guilty while you figure out someone/something else to blame. Better to address the bad behavior as your own sin, repent, and work hard to learn how to be thankful in every situation. Happiness is a choice. There is much joy in the grace of God.