Which happens but I hope it doesn’t cloud one’s behavior for a lifetime.
I was taught to be gracious and I’ve taught my kids to be that way too: Say thank you/appreciate doors being held open, etc. Give up your seat on the bus, because it’s the right thing to do not because you’ll be acknowledged for it.
Don’t do those things if it’s gonna cause you to freak out, or you expect something in return. It’s courteous. It’s the right thing to do. To hell with how it is received.
You’re holding that door open because you were raised that way, as a gentleman. And that’s the right thing to do no matter the response.
>> but I hope it doesn’t cloud one’s behavior for a lifetime.
I’m kinda stubborn about what I am, and that includes the effort of being courteous — save the random antagonism we all suffer and are forced to deal with.