Thats because when you got what you have (and I’m in the same boat as you, I think) there were more limited options and a lesser perception of risk.
Again, look at what Jared Polis said. If I were an inbound college freshman I’d be absolutely terrified of dating. Look at what happens to men in divorces. If I were a young 20 something I’d be absolutely terrified of getting married.
I look back on both and really think that I lucked out. Not just because I see society as having shifted in the last 20-30 years but also because I know guys my own age who got completely screwed in both those types of scenarios. The former being much more rare then than today.
Given an upfront and new choice, rather than looking back retroactively and applying choices that didn’t exist, I completely get how a sexbot is going to be a more attractive option to a lot of men. Quite possibly an unsustainable, socially-destabilizing number of men.
If you wait, it will come along.
I had to wait until over 40 to find a wife. Once I found here, though, there was no question about it.
Dunno.
The older I get, the more I am certain that I have very little in common with college freshmen of today.
I was raised on Kipling, stories of heroic deeds, princesses rescued, women defended. I knew what I wanted to show my love, and what I wanted from her.
Excellent point- way back when, marriages meant something to BOTH parties- and both were much much more willing to work things out instead of running off to a lawyer because the husband was 5 minutes late for supper, or the wife forgot to was his favorite pair of socks
We are in a much different society today- a very selfish society, a ‘hooray for me, the hell with you’ society where sadly, many women see marriage as a business proposition where they can score big after a ‘few years [or months] of ‘dreadful servitude’, and a man sees marriage more as ‘found sex’ for a few years [or months] until someone else catches his fancy
There is very little honor today- Very little respect-
I’m old enough where I’ve watched the change happen right before my eyes- my folk’s generation, for the most part- honored their marriages, and didn’t run away at the first signs of trouble- they stayed together because it was the honorable thing to do, and because they understood that marriage is touch, and because they TRULY loved their spouses through thick and thin
They should just go ahead and change marriage vows to “And I promise to love so and so for as long as I shall live... UNLESS the no good so and so does something I don’t like, then all bets are off”
“Again, look at what Jared Polis said. If I were an inbound college freshman I’d be absolutely terrified of dating.”
Yep, and think about it:
If 20% of college women are “sexually assaulted” at college (as colleges define that)
and
We are willing to punishing 4 innocent men for every 1 man guilty of sexual assault.
Simple math says if you adopt those policies you would quickly expel 100% of men from college campuses....
Quite likely a population destroying overwhelming majority of men. Frankly the only thing that prevents it with, ahem, lower tech alternates is social approbation by other guys. Once the rubric is crossed with incredibly hot looking reproductions who specialize in making guys’ eyeballs roll back in their heads, you can lower the curtain and turn off the lights. It. Is. Over.
That’s also why I think its more like 10 years from now that this will happen. Once our overlords realize the potential, no expense will be spared to bring about the Bootilicious model 15.