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Several of my friends have boys in their late teens.

Sorriest bunch of loser I have ever seen. They don’t work, they smoke pot, doing horribly in high school and when I ask them what are they doing after graduation - IF they graduate - they shrug and say “I don’t know.” Several have probation officers and there will be at least 2 GEDs.

I have known their mothers for decades and they are good people. I am trying to figure out what has happened and the best I can come up with is that the kids were given everything their whole life and they have never had to face any consequences when they screw up. Also, they are allowed to act on ‘mediocre is just fine’.

So, I look for these kids to be in jail at some point, after fathering a passel of losers, and their parents will spend their retirement and pensions raising another generation of losers.

God help us.

We have a 17 year old boy living with us.
He tells me stories of some of the real serious dummies he is in school with. They don’t see the urgency of getting an education and a skill before they graduate.
Life will be hard for those idiots.

A friend of mine raised her son that way. He never had to lift a finger to do a single chore. He didn't even have to walk a few feet to the stove to spoon himself up a second helping of dinner. He would scream for his mother, and she'd come running from another part of the house, pick up the little prince's plate, spoon him another helping, and place it before him. The only thing he was ever asked to do was his homework, and he'd scream and throw tantrums so bad, his parents would end up doing the homework FOR him...then half the time he'd have another tantrum because they didn't do it right!Now he's almost 30. He still lives at home with his now divorced mom. He hasn't worked in about 20 years, (couldn't keep the few jobs he tried.) He sleeps until about 1:00 p.m., goes to the gym, comes home, goes out and parties at night. Mommy pays for his food, his truck, his medical insurance, everything. He refuses to even try to get a job. He'll be living with his mom the rest of his life.

I'm not a parent, so maybe I just don't get it. What happens to some people when they have kids that they start thinking the child is their precious little prince or princess who must never be told "no"? They're creating monsters, and they don't even seem to see it.