You can’t tell me I’m wrong without judging me, the very thing you condemn.
There’s a word for that.
Hypocrisy comes to mind.
Mat 7:1 Judge not, that you may not be judged.
On the surface it would appear that this says we should never make a judgment. Yet in other places we are told this: 1Th 5:21 prove all things; hold fast that which is good;
Mat 7:2 For with what judgment you judge, you shall be judged: and with what measure you mete, it shall be measured to you again.This is the part many people leave out. What ever metric I use to assess another I must expect to have the exact same metric used on me.
Mat 7:3 And why seest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye; and seest not the beam that is in thy own eye? This is the other verse that people like to throw out with out thinking about the interior consequence. Socrates put it this way: ὁ δὲ ἀνεξέταστος βίος οὐ βιωτὸς ἀνθρώπῳ (The unexamined life is not worth living for a human being.)This can be take at least two ways:
1) Have I examined my own life have I judged my own actions, my own thoughts? Have I examined my conscience?
The second is just as important.
2) Have I allowed others to stand in judgment of me? Is there someone or some group I trust enough to sit in judgment of what I have done or what I believe?
Do I surround myself with people that challenge me, or am I surrounded by sycophants that march in mental lockstep with me?
We must have people in our life that love and care for us enough to challenge us.
Pro 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron, so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
That is the definition of hypocrisy.