I think one thing you're missing though, is that the Powers That Be have managed, through careful indoctrination and propaganda efforts, to just about evenly split this country right in half. It's not the old north/south divide, and is not really even a rural/city split, though that is closer to the mark than most. Rather, it is a split of ideologies and worldviews. Try talking to a diehard leftist about just about anything, and you'll see that they really do not live in the same reality that you do.
To them, their world and perceptions make complete sense, just like yours do to you. Even something as basic as language has been twisted to fit the leftist agenda. We see a little bleed-over of this with made up concepts like "microagression", and "white privilege", but most of us really don't see the whole of it, unless we're unfortunate enough to be an unwilling prisoner in a leftist stronghold. Because they use and attach different meanings to common words, they will draw entirely different, and to us, non-sensical conclusions given the same set of facts, or the same description of different events.
That's one of the things that is going to cause the most problems when we truely leave the 'awkward stage', because both 'sides' see this from such grossly different perspectives. I've seen many conservatives write about the "us having all the guns" because the leftists are such ardent gun-control activists. Well, that's not really the case at all. As in so many things, what they really mean when they say they want to get guns off the street, is not that they want to be disarmed. What they really mean is they want to take guns away from the wrong people (in their mind) - mostly that's us, and minorities, because of the racism their worldview is so thoroughly steeped in.
Take a look at some "anarchist" sites, and you'll see them talking about being armed up to the teeth, and the wilder bunches are really into blowing things up. This has been true for a long time. (Weathermen anyone?)
For the establishment, things get really tricky. While the leftists will use the full power of the state to destroy any opposition to their policies, no matter how small, their more militant brethren are really more interested in chaos than anything else. So, they'll have no problem at all with attacking infrastructure elements, and LE or military types when they can get away with it, they'd take it amiss if folks started popping off EPA, BATFags, or any of the favored stalinists agencies of the left as seen in Unintended Consequences.
Things will get right interesting when everything finally falls into the crapper. The Feral government has done a pretty good job protecting themselves so far, but when things really devolve, the video cameras they've placed everywere to monitor and control things aren't really going to be especially useful for them.
Some of this is spoken to in a vanity I posted a while back: Police and Society in America
We're in for interesting times, and I don't know how it will all shake out in the end.