Of course you thank God for your baby. My husband’s family and I thank God for his mentally retarded aunt. We adore her.
Yet at the same time, we understand that she has problems. Why would we deny that? Retardation means what it means-—cognitively impaired. My husband’s grandparents and his family don’t go around saying the aunt is perfect or doesn’t have flaws because it simply isn’t true.
Therefore, you don’t blame God for the special needs of children anymore than you blame Him for any other issues.
Ugh. I told myself not to come back here but to continue researching. Is there a 12 step program for FR, lol? I don’t blame God at all. He works in mysterious ways and has placed these people in our lives for various reasons. I questioned Him at first, and over time realized that He gave me my son for a reason. What is that reason? I think my son will be the face of ASD, as well as for others who have issues that people can’t see. Because he is high functioning, people just think I’m a bad mom when he has his occasional meltdowns. His best friend is Downs Syndrome, and our community sees this normal looking boy properly engaging with a boy who, by simply looking at him, people know is different. When we devalue people who didn’t do anything to cause their problems by calling them defective, as a poster did, then it just adds fuel to the abortion fire. FR is better than that, in my opinion only.