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To: fredhead
Just for the heck of it, here's my story......

One thing you can observe in life as a divorced man, as seen on this thread, is that some non divorced men size you up as a failure. That you obviously messed up. You either were a bad husband or obviously chose to marry some crazy woman. Hence it's all your fault anyways. That attitude applies to other topics too at FR. The judgmental and know-it-all attitude from those who haven't experienced divorce is just swell.
225 posted on 05/07/2015 4:54:57 AM PDT by BJ1
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To: BJ1

Our biggest contention was in discipline. I felt we needed to be somewhat strict, like my parents were with me. She wanted to be best friend with our daughter. I see now how that turned out.


233 posted on 05/07/2015 5:20:07 AM PDT by fredhead (Join the Navy and see the world.....77% of which is covered in water.)
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To: BJ1

Well said, BJ! Thanks.

Y’all others who want to weigh in and tell me I’m wrong—screw you, you have not felt my pain, rest assured. Not even Adolph Hitler deserved what I got.


245 posted on 05/07/2015 5:53:54 AM PDT by Alas Babylon! (As we say in the Air Force, "You know you're over the target when you start getting flak!")
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To: BJ1

I’m not divorced, and I sympathize with the divorced men on this forum; younger American men are watching & learning, and apparently are determined not to repeat the same mistake (in terms of marriage in general - not divorce). I work with angry childless American women who are past childbearing age, who are getting married late in life because the current boyfriend safely feels he risks nothing. The women have their own money, won’t steal their children (they’ll have none), and would have no claim to the mens’ future earnings due to their own salaries.

Today’s American teens & millenials are the last generation of Americans; these women seethe with resentment at the black, Hispanic, and Asian co-workers who have the families they can’t, and they resent American men like me who married a foreigner to have a family.


306 posted on 05/07/2015 1:36:51 PM PDT by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic warfare against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: BJ1
One thing you can observe in life as a divorced man, as seen on this thread, is that some non divorced men size you up as a failure. That you obviously messed up. You either were a bad husband or obviously chose to marry some crazy woman. Hence it's all your fault anyways. That attitude applies to other topics too at FR. The judgmental and know-it-all attitude from those who haven't experienced divorce is just swell.

It's like that with any philosophically formed topic.

In the current case, you are dealing with a) women facing up to the duplicitous, condescending, culture they subscribe to, b) religious beliefs about what will and will not sustain a marriage. In either case, negative testimony about the validity of their beliefs means either they are wrong, or you are...and almost no one is going to admit they are the one in the wrong until they are drug kicking and screaming to it.

337 posted on 05/08/2015 2:45:19 AM PDT by papertyger (Gun fighting is the American martial art.)
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To: BJ1

And for the record...I’m not and have never been divorced. I’ve been married for 28 years.

If my wife didn’t stand head an shoulders above nearly EVERy woman I’ve met in my life, I wouldn’t be married.


338 posted on 05/08/2015 2:50:50 AM PDT by papertyger (Gun fighting is the American martial art.)
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