It doesn’t matter. Even if the are born that way, it is still a disorder. When a child is born with diabetes, we do not say that God made them that way and celebrate it. We treat the diabetes. In this sinful and fallen world, people are born with disorders (dont get me wrong, I do not think they are born that way, but even if they are its a fallacious argument)
I agree. I assume lots of men and women want to have sex but that doesn’t make it helpful. In fact, it would be harmful. Solomon with his gazillion wives was destructive to those women...and to him. I’ve not doubt he would have been far better off with one woman who loved him and he her.