I’ve been in engineering for a long time and asked a few female co-workers out for lunch/drinks (when I wasn’t their superior). Sometimes a second time after they declined the first. I suppose today that would be considered assault...
Yes, most attractive ladies I’ve met in the field have had at least one bad “experience” at work (few openly share) but it’s no different than what they would experience anywhere else. A small percentage of men are assholes everywhere and it has nothing to do with STEM. It’s simply a reality of being a woman ANYWHERE and real gentlemen have to be on watch for it.
They've made it so any workplace meeting-up is way too risky. I will NOT mess with any woman at work.