Sorry about your troubles.
I am about 2 hours away if I can help in any way.
Oldest child (age 35)
has 2 college degrees and has decided to go back to school (again).
Her and her husband have no kids and they don’t want any.
Middle child (age 32), his wife, and my 2 grand-kids are still
living with me and Mrs. R17 and sucking on our teats.
They just can’t seem to get their shit together.
Youngest child (age 29) has two college degrees and
is still trying to “find himself”...he thinks school is better than work.
Only he and the dear Lord only knows how much debt he has in student loans.
I would like to retire, but I can’t afford it!
Sometimes it’s easier to keep going to school than to actually face reality you need to pay that back... I hear ya!
Wow are things really that bad out there? My two are both pulling in 200K a year.
Something to be said for that Catholic School education...
Kids are a worry at any age. I had two sons and a difficult marriage, husband Korea ptsd. The older decided to become tougher than the old man, went army right out of high school and ROTC, Gulf War I, 82nd, 2 tours Afghanistan Special Forces. I worry about the grandchildren. He can leave with 20 next year, and is talking about going to engineering school.
The younger had dyslexia, and dropped out of high school, was moping about the house doing nothing, told him his brother said the guys he knew paid their parents $200 a month to live at home after age 18. He said OK, I’ll leave. Moved in with 5 somewhat dysfunctional friends in a wreck of a house for a total of $350 a month. I asked a young man I had helped who now had his own business if he could take my son on and teach him how to work. Don’t take any crxx, but give him second chances. That son is now happily married, two kids, and has a small business with several employees. Knowing when and how to apply tough love is tricky, but it worked for him. I did some reading and talking with professionals before I made my move. I wish you luck and forbearance with your complicated family situatiuon.