"...or more generally, do you have it in you to hate people of another race because some of them say nasty things about your kind?"
I don't hate people at all. I hate the evil things they do to each other, like lying, stealing, and murder, but hate people?, No. It takes too much energy to hate.
The racial divide and its consequential acts of violence are perpetuated by gross ignorance which is stoked by race mongers. I had a tagline that used to read, "Nothing will change until lying becomes an expensive and dangerous undertaking."
Unfortunately we can only expect more of the same until Justice and the Rule of Law is once again established as the foundation of our country.
In short you aren't willing to hold the black community at large to the same moral standard you have for yourself. Perhaps you do not believe they are capable.
This is the real problem.
The very foundation of our system holds that all are equal, in God's eyes and under the law. Our race problems will not resolve themselves until the black community (in general) is held to the same moral standard that is expected of everyone else.