A cake is a cake. Many wedding cakes are neutral, no pair of men on top. I see no problem with baking a cake without a symbol of two men on it. Who writes words on a wedding cake? What they do with the cake after it’s sold is their business. I in no way want gay marriage or approve of it. I just don’t see this as a huge battle.
I will, however, pray for this woman.
Yes, it does happen - even at straight weddings before there was gay marriage. I have attended weddings where there was writing on the cake.
Writing with icing is not easy. I believe the bakery did it.