I take it then that you would say we lost the Revolutionary War? The War of 1812? In both, the enemy’s will to resist was eliminated by hardly its ability. One can argue that in the latter case American armed forces suffered most of the battlefield loses. But in both cases, the war aims of the United States were achieved. They were both victories, as was every conflict in which American armed forces have engaged, including all the wars that this article tries to sell as loses. Unless of course you don’t call them wars because they didn’t end like WWII, which most wars do not.
No, in both cases the enemy’s will to resist US was completely eliminated, and in one case we got a full surrender and in the other a negotiated end. I see no disparity.