Like the bible says, be angry yet without sin.
God knows everything about how and when is the right way and the right time. Avoiding gratuitous damage is a lot of it.
In a confrontation, if my conscience screams “don’t” I will do just about whatever it takes to shut off the countdown-but if not, I let it happen-once I see the red, there is no stopping. I know if I haven’t done the right thing, Dios me castigara.