Ok..let me condense this...so you can see what you obviously already know...however I’ve put some additions in...
He was mooching from his father
He scammed the police,/ the property management.
He was booted off the property by the law and management....He then spent 3 weeks on the street begging for money from us and the entire family.
He refused to work or get help.
(key)...So, I brought him home, for one night.
‘YOU’ decided he was going to stay so long as he could follow the rules
(so up til this point clearly you have a 44 yr. old winner, not a looser, milking everyone who says go ahead have at it and let me help you.)
Then...
You drove him to LA ...and his mommy paid for his hotel expenses. (so far he’s batting 100 %)
You were missing $700 out of my briefcase..... (Bingo payday!...he’s batting another home run!)
You watched him down 6 scotch’s in 90 minutes......(Nothing like having a buddy to drink with even if they don’t...he’s still the winner in this game he’s playing)
Then....
You give him another ride to the Mondrian. Though he’s got a grand on him. (he’s making out pretty dang good)
Mommy gets upset with you... (controller of you both)....You go back and get him home for mommy.
He gambles ...He’s an Alcoholic..all the above standard behavior for such people and family’s of enabling their behavior.
Cops picked him up and psych warded him.
So who bailed him out?
You see there’s a typical pattern here.....and obvious you know this....so as you say at what point will you stop listening to Mommy and him? You do understand that your mother is the controller in this?
I did not bail him out the first time.
That was a complete shock to me.
When I drove him to LA, he was fine, though I feared the worst.
When I dropped him off I was standing with a couple friends and just wanted him out of my hair and had to pass by the hotel
The rest I cop to but, never gave permission to any of this and we are currently at more than a bit of friction.
I am going away tomorrow instead of spending Christmas here.
I told his mommy enough was enough, which might be why she blurted that she would always take her son over me.
I smiled and walked out of the room knowing what needed to be done and I’m done.
No one is leading here and I informed her that she should choose him over me and I am okay with that.
But, my fault for living here.
We are done with this retarded game.
I’ve watched with bemusment as he thinks he is winning this entire week but, it’s madness.
His mom says “I want peace in this house on Christmas Day.”
“Yeah, so what are the terms and conditions and how will we recognize it, measure it? and don’t bother to answer because you will not give one that is adequate to both sides and I think we are wasting our time at ALANON if you are going to continue enabling him and further amputate any ambition he has”.
You are right and so are a few others.
I have no way to enforce this, except by leaving and that is where I am at.
Funny, my brother has wondered why I stayed so long, as I never gave any other woman a chance.
Thanks for the slap with the cold wet towel.
It was deserved.