I know what you mean.
I must admit, I have known for some time that drinking heavily is something I have to approach with a degree of caution, but it isn’t that I get angry, argumentative, disruptive or destructive.
On the contrary, I am a good natured drunk (or so I have been told) but I do stupid things. No common sense.
So I don’t do that anymore unless I am in a fairly controlled environment with friends who I trust to look out for me, and that comes up once or twice a year...it’s fun.
But I had never been able to play that role for my nieces or nephews...I guess it just never came up like that!
I love to throw a ball. My son outgrew throwing the ball with the old man but I still love to do it. The “drunk” uncle is the guy who teaches you play poker, pitch a curve ball, throw a spiral and how to do a brake job.
I can do all that stuff.