“How do you know her smoking is the cause?
A lot of plain old luck is involved.”
You can never know for sure. What we do know is that odds do go up. I know smokers don’t want to believe that any more than they do second hand smoke, but it is clearly true, and logical. You can’t pollute your own body without your child sharing.
Things do go wrong, but you can also affect the odds with bad choices.
I don’t know when you had yours. This was back in ‘90. She was well aware of the warnings about smoking and pregnant. She won’t even consider she might have done it. She just insists that 30 is ‘too old’ for having kids. Nonsense.
I had mine in the late 50s and early 60s——the tail end of the Boomers and we had large families.
My generation smoked a lot,including pregnant women.
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