the whining is probably because some non-technical peter principle feminist manager is putting a warning in his yearly evaluation which threatens him with sexual harassment and firing.
as to the shirt, it is just a shirt, like a hawaiian shirt, only it has women on it instead of pineapples. so what.
the guy flew a satellite to land on a comet for the last 10 or 15 years, so imho he is entitled to celebrate and entitled to be cut some slack in a sane (non-feminist-epidemic-infected) world that celebrates accomplishment. but no, now guys can’t celebrate accomplishment any more, because there are females out there who might get offended.
as to your peter pan syndrome (thanks, looked that up) nerd date, what were you doing, robbing the cradle? and was this before, during or after your marriage? are you hot-wifing? enquiring MCP minds want to know! my mother had to teach my father how to drive, because up until he met her, he only knew how to fly 4 engine bombers (over places where flak was thick). but by your definition, that would no doubt make him effete.
I wasn’t robbing the cradle. He had a PhD in math and was 30+. It’s called Peter Pan syndrome for a reason. They. never. grow. up.
Funny how those of us in high tech and with terminal degrees on this board have never worked with anyone who dresses like this. This guy, regardless of his accomplishments, is an anomaly. And not in a good way.
One of the sagest pieces of advice I ever recieved was this: At work, the strongest statement should be your work. I wore a pair of jeans with ‘fashionable rips’ to work one day. In my defense, I wasn’t even 30 yet and it was my very first job and I’d worked there less than a month.
This guy didn’t do all this by himself. There is a huge support group of people with educations and experience just like his. It’s like the Oscar’s. He had a chance to recognize them, their assistance with this project and congratulate everyone involved. Instead the whole conversation has been about this guy’s poor wardrobe choices. What a loser. 30 or more and still needs his mommy to dress him in the morning.