I don’t know.
I do know that the pressure builds up, then the man explodes in frustration, then the relationship is over. Once there was a blatant ‘put out or we’re done’ ultimatum. Twice, there was a engagement (with the diamond ring) and the man thought that the commitment to commit should be enough. (I do believe that this was the case in the first situation.)
The fact is that religious men are still MEN. Other than a bit more patience, I don’t see any difference between religious or secular men when it comes to premarital sex.
Worse, religious men seem to value purity in a woman... until it comes to *them*.
i for one do not associate sex with any variant of purity or impurity.
i’m calling bs that most other men (whatever their religion— religion being irrelevant to character in the large) do.
i calculate the rate of a woman meeting a guy and the subject of virginity comes up at about once per week outside of an remote agrarian society, hermitage, nunnery, or international space station.
at that rate, a 26 year old female will have turned down over 500 guys (presuming she starts considering dating at 16).
(read the above twice before continuing. thanks)
unless she simply does not like sex with men, in my consideration, that is one messed up female.
therefore to me the overwhelming probability is that such a woman is not so much religious as she has unconsciously made some kind of lifestyle decision not to consider any man as a sexual partner.
of course, it could be possible that the woman had somehow missed meeting “mr. right” 500+ times in a row.
possible, yes. probable, no. implausible... i say yes.
for such women, it might be time to call a spade a spade, and get a cat, or a woman lover (whatever) and be done with it. but not time to write an article and project blame for one’s lifestyle choices on others... jesus, g*d, christian and/or non-christian men, other women, whoever.
for such women, just take responsibility for one’s own choices, and move on.