The dirty little secret is we've cultivated at least three generations of women who define "abuse" as anything that doesn't give them what they want.
You will please note that while it is perfectly socially acceptable to attribute negatives inherent to the male gender it is never acceptable to speculate on any possible negatives inherent to the female gender.
Personally, I've never found a coin with only one side.
My wife says women are far worse than men, just much more covert about it.
I’ve been on the planet long enough to heartily agree with her. A man may just land you in a hospital or morgue. A woman will ruin your life.
We have the technology, we have the mathematics, we have the understanding!
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