Really? Over half a million civilians were killed in the strategic bombing campaign. Hundreds of cities and towns were flattened. Hundreds of thousands more were killed fleeing the advancing Russian army. And you say the people in the Confederacy had it worse than that?
Now can you imagine our troops in WWII Europe marching through Germany, burning down most of the houses and barns as they went along, raping all the pretty German women they saw, shooting the cattle, stealing all the valuables and generally laughing about the whole thing? While I'm sure isolated instances of this may have occurred, this was not the norm. Yet that is what northern troops did while in the South. And when Germany capitulated, we helped them out with the Marshall plan to rebuild their economy, and even dropped candy to their kids from airplanes. But when the south capitulated, we got reconstruction, martial law and instead of helping to rebuild our economy we were given heavy taxes that kept the south down economically for years.