Posted on 09/29/2014 9:43:33 AM PDT by wagglebee
I’m glad your journey from emotional turmoil was successful, especially as it relates to your family. I would not have been so kind as you were-my degree may be in social work, but my husband would have become my ex husband as soon as the ink was dry on the decree after that episode-that is my Latin temper, and you are a better person than me in that...
Only through the blood of Jesus can they forgive themselves. That’s the only way ANY of us can forgive ourselves.
God loved that baby who was killed, so much that He says that anybody who hurt that child deserves to die. And he says the same for every person He’s created, because He loves us all so much. Which is great when we’re the one being defended, but means that for every sin we’ve committed against somebody else we deserve to be condemned, deserve to die.
Women instinctively know that. A very high percentage of women who are incarcerated began their life of crime in response to an abortion. They believe they deserve to die, and if the society won’t kill them then they will indirectly punish/kill themselves. Coping mechanisms like promiscuity, drugs, prostitution, etc are also used to punish themselves, even though they may have no idea why they do it. I remember speaking with one gal on a forum, describing post-abortion syndrome. She was stunned, never realizing that what she had been through is a common response to the repressed guilt of an abortion. She had never realized she was reacting to the abortion.
God can’t just overlook wrongs that are done. He is just; the wrongs have to be avanged/paid for. But He desperately wanted us with Him in Heaven. So He Himself paid our death penalty.
Accepting forgiveness is not cheapening the child’s life as if it doesn’t matter that a precious child was needlessly killed. It matters DEARLY. It cost Jesus all His suffering on the cross. But He was willing to do that so that we could be cleared of any judgment against us. The death penalty has already been paid. And the least we can do for the Lord who paid that penalty on our behalf is to let Him see the joy that was set before Him that compelled Him to such sacrifice: the joy of seeing us forgiven and restored, a radiant Bride without spot or blemish. He bought this gorgeous pure-white wedding gown of righteousness at GREAT price because He loves us; the least we can do is wear it proudly and come to Him as the radiant forgiven bride that He has made us.
I hope I’m not mixing metaphors too much here, so everybody can understand. That abortion cost Jesus His life; it is not cheap. But the death penalty has been paid by Jesus; to act as if the penalty still hangs over our own head is to deny what Jesus did, which is the ultimate slap in His face.
It is hard to forgive yourself when the sin is so ugly, but Jesus’ gruesome death on our behalf is all the punishment that justice requires. We can be forgiven without diminishing the enormity of the sin or how sacred and beautiful our sin’s victim is.
Not caring on the outside may be a facade. A very effective facade.
When holding up pro-life signs for the Life Chain I noticed that the people who saw us usually had one of 3 reactions: they honked and put their thumbs up to show support, or they flipped us the bird, or they stared forward so they wouldn’t have to see any of it.
The people I prayed for so much were the ones who stared ahead. They weren’t hiding behind anger and belligerence like the others; they had made it to a deeper point in the grieving process - a place where healing can begin.
Wanna know what’s sad? When Wendy Davis was belligerent the pro-aborts loved her. Once she shared her story of aborting a child with a handicap - trying to put a nuanced human face on the issue - it became uncomfortable for the pro-aborts. It’s always easier to flip the bird than it is to stare straight ahead. It’s more fun and energizing to be with people who are out flipping the bird than it is to be with those who are staring straight ahead.
But the ones who are staring straight ahead are the ones who are on the verge of healing. I pray that God pulls them through the rest of that painful process - including both mother and daughter in this story. And I pray that Wendy Davis is one of them who makes it through the process forgiven, and with her humanity restored.
The unconcerned demeanor is one we are trained to adopt in public situations from signs people hold to questions in a job interview-our public persona, we all have one-some, like the ahead looking people you describe-many of whom are motivated by nothing more than the fact that they really are disconnected and uncaring people-the kind most of us don’t care to know.
If someone at the local flea market has even an Obama or a pro-choice bumper sticker, the safety of their vehicle is by no means assured-flat tires and keying happens-country people aren’t at all tolerant of liberals, and don’t care if they don’t spend their money here...
Davis, AKA abortion Barbie wouldn’t have the sympathy of most women even if she had never had an abortion, because she is a gold digger who was screwing around with an older well off man while married to her first husband-he married her and put her through law school-she was not the “hard working single mother” as she first claimed. After she’d had a kid by him and law school was paid for, hubby #2 got dumped in his turn as soon as she got her bar card.
She also left her kid with everyone from her mother and her husband #1 for months while she was screwing around with husband #2. Her kids do not choose to live with her, either-sympathy, my ass...
As an attorney, she went off in court a few years ago then filed an unsuccessful lawsuit after her antics were made public for slander-so she is also a loose cannon, and no doubt emotionally unstable...
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