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I bounce back and forth between your sentiments, and schadenfreude over women like this.

Anyone remember this great old story?

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a cr@ppy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity … in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold … hence the rub … marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Many years ago....MANY, MANY years ago, I was a college student in California.

During a vacation period, I was visiting my parents who lived in Santa Barbara at the time. While there, I went to Robinson’s department store at a local mall.

There was a mousy looking girl, wearing glasses, working behind a cosmetics counter. She must have been in her early twenties.

As I walked by, I overheard her say to one of her female co-workers, “The guy I marry has to be good-looking, a millionaire” and then she mentioned a number of other qualities and stipulations that I no longer remember.

I had to fight the urge to say to her, “Sweetheart, what are YOU bringing to the table?”

The man in the story: I would run over you if I were looking for a man, because CHARACTER you do not have, and if you are like the man in the story, you too.

Thankfully, I married a man with an honorable character and will remain with him until the end of whichever life goes first. Love and romance is not about looks, that is only lust. No doubt the man will end up impotent since less than beautiful turns him on. What beautiful girl wants an impotent old balding man who only has money.

Sadly, the man in the story’s money could disappear easily through bad investments or theft in a flash. The woman is better off without him at any age....and should look for a man who actually thinks with his brain and not his penis.