Oh hush. You made an utterly foolish remark, now pay for it.
In cases like these, I read the article to see if there is a connection between in country service and the service member. from the article, this is what I found: “He joined the National Guard in 2009, guard spokesman Steven Fairbourn said. He was assigned to a support battalion for the 19th Special Forces Unit, where his chief duty was handling laundry.”
I can’t tell if he served stateside, or not. Usually in these cases, PTSD is involved. It will be interesting to see if there was a PPO (yep, I know, just a piece of paper that people shoot thru all the time) in place.
And it is never ok to blame the victim. Never.
Giving and revoking at whim...is never right, no matter who does it. I just got that message from a FReeper. It describes people who play with others’ emotions. THAT is never right.