Some kids wait an awful long time to be adopted. Unless they fit the desirable criteria. It is what is is. We’ve had several adoptions in the family. If you tell the agency you will take any race or kids with serious medical issues your wait time is less. My sister got a black infant within 5 months of joining an agency. The cold reality is not too many married couples are willing to adopt a baby with Downs. Unfortunately as we all know many Downs babies are terminated before birth. An on-going crime against humanity. In my case I’ve seen 2 Lesbians change the lives of 2 Downs kids vastly for the better.
And let's face it, in his flawed world, there's always a gap--- a big gap or a small one --- between the family we have, and the family we wish we had.
But it's becoming a matter of academic taboo, and even a matter of legally prohibited discrimination, to say that family structure makes a difference, and that having a mother and father married to each other is the best setting for raising children.
Social science research showing negative outcomes for kids raised in a variety of non-mom-and-dad or non-intact household settings is suppressed just like global-warming "denier" data is suppressed. Look what they did to Mark Regnerus' studies on the relevance of family structure in parenting outcomes.
The men-and-women-are-identical ideology is proudly unempirical and is causing a lot of suffering, because ersatz-families are being conjured up, centered around the desires and demands of adults and not the rights and needs of children.