This is what I was thinking. You can send me all the statistics you want - it’s like the lies coming from the White House and the murder rate in Chicago. Use your eyes, look around, and see for yourself.
I know probably as many married couples as I know divorced individuals. Some of the married are on second marriages. And also, I know many people living together with a long term partner that don’t want to get married - for whatever reason. These are people that may have gotten married in the past and then divorced. Another fact lowering the rate. The other thing easy to see? Plenty of Divorce Attorneys with full client rosters and plenty of cases on the docket.
Divorce also doesn’t carry the stigma that it used to. And if you’re in an unhealthy marriage that comes with a lot of conflict - especially with kids in the picture, it’s not a good environment to raise and teach kids in. Kids are not stupid. My friends children were relieved when he got divorced.
Each and every case is different, and if there were an honest show of hands here I bet we’d see more than a 25% divorce rate.
My experience says that these researchers are probably right...that the rate of divorce is about 25% for first time marriages.
The frequency of divorce over a specified period of time is generally the method used in researching divorce rate. The period of time is often 5 year increments.
So, the rate of divorce for first marriages at the cohort 5 year mark compared with all cohort marriages at the 5 year mark.
(or 10 years)